I was very angry when i heard this.. i explained to both of them..
Both of them reach home at 230pm... Jiayi tuition at 330pm.. They took their time to eat till 3pm... asked jiayi what homework she has.. she has compre and chinese to do... i asked her to complete them before tuition.. at least the chinese first... cause her tuition is ending at 5pm... and by the time she dilly delly will be 5+pm.. then time for dinner.. and she will watch tv.. then she wont complete her homework.. and she gotta learn her chinese and english spelling... but this good girl completed her eng and chinese homework before tutor come and after tuition, she rest all way... Am i wrong? If i were to leave everything till after tuition, she cannot finish.. its not that i dun wan her to do later but... theres no time...
Eamon... he is having flu.. after lunch, i got him to complete his spelling corrections, fed him medicine and get him to shower then ask him to sleep at 315pm.. why? after med, he drowsy, he will sleep till dinner time... if i get him to shower, then he wont have to shower in the night catching another cold... and after medication, he will be drowsy, then he cannot do homework cause drowsy ma... so rather that he sleep and get drowsy all the way till SIL bring them home to rest...
Taking care of the 2 kids is not at our own time own target.. its proper planning... making sure nothing gets affected... after recess, they also go back to class and study... whats the diff? plus, its only tuition days that everything needs to rush..
I let go for a long time.. didi's attitude becoming worse... its easy to let go.. but it can take up to 1 year to grab them back to track... then what can we do? cane them? no! its consistent monitoring.. im not a kiasu person.. but instead of everyday grabbing the child back, why not keep them on track and nurture them? Im not a unreasonable ah kim.. but how long do i have them with me? once they go to sec sch, then i regret and cry over spilled milk? why they have their friend to influence them then i grab back? too late...
I never believe in lettting them grow by themselves.. this is what my mom did to me.. and i had to go thru everything the hard way..
its not easy guiding 2 kids.. they are jus my niece and nephew, i have my limitations and i try not to cross the border.. there are things that its not up to me to say NO. but everytime when i get reprimanded by ILs, i want to let go.. but.. in my heart, i know... i cannot be a selfish person.. these are little minds, little lives that we cannot jus neglect like tat... its a life that parents bring to earth.. its our responsibility to guide them to track and bring them to a place where they can fly. Its very selfish jus to "let them be" and later cane or scold them for their misbehave..
If we wanna bring them here, we need to do our part.. these 2 kids are very very dear to me... i cannot give up.. cause my mom gave up or didnt try or jus keep telling me to follow the path myself.. i was lost at a moment and end up taking the wrong route..
Jia yi was lost.. it took all of us 1 year to bring her back... 1 year, she lost too many things.. now.. she is working hard, playing hard.. and loving herself... i hope didi will be like her..
I know there are more complains from the old folks to come.. but i will endure.. its not easy to be a guiding star but i will make sure i shine high and bright and see these 2 kiddos grow up proper and be well.
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